Many years ago a woman I am friendly with who seems naturally thin, trim and fit (but who really does work at it!) told me the secret to her success. She said: I never leave a wedding or celebratory event without having my piece of chocolate cake.
When she elaborated it was clear that she was mindful all week long. But when she went somewhere special she treated herself to the lavish dessert.
I recently was at a gala buffet dinner honoring a mutual friend and sat next to the chocolate cake friend. She opted to not eat a thing the entire buffet (Unlike me 😱). She wasn’t hungry, as she ate a full meal before coming to the event. She doesn’t enjoy certain foods and correctly predicted that much of the food options would not be to her liking.
Then, true to her word, she ate and enjoyed dessert.
Lesson to learn… first of all never judge someone who is eating dessert and thin and assume how ‘lucky’ they are.
We don’t know what they ate, how much they worked out or what effort they put in to be eating that dessert. And anyway, it doesn’t help us to have a pity party about how lucky others are and how tough we might have it.
Second lesson… make a plan and stick to it! This is what my friend has done. It may not look to the outside that way but she is mindful of what she eats and makes a balance that allows her to eat that cake.